Looking back, Moving Forward

It’s an amazing feeling to see all the progress that Have A Gay Day has made over the years. From it’s humble beginnings as a Facebook page no one ever imagined that it would turn into a charity organization. You never realize that rainbow takeovers in the middle of the night would inspire someone or change a life but it happens. Remembering one of the rainbow takeovers there was a grandfather that commented on one of the photos of some rainbow yarn and said that just looking at all of our rainbows sparked something in him to really think about acceptance. He said that at that moment his granddaughter deserved to be loved and something just clicked. If it takes a rainbow to find acceptance then we will post rainbows till everyone wakes up to equality. That was one of the moments that just makes you happy you started a little place called Have A Gay Day.

We never imagined that there would be a facebook page.  Never thought that the Facebook page would grow to over a million likes.  There are so many things that have happened that we never thought was possible.  Our amazing supporters and community have made everything we have done and continue to do possible.  We started with 150 square feet and in 2017 we plan on moving into a space that will be huge compared to where we are are now.  The management at the building doesn’t like our rainbow tree and it’s time to find another step of growth and acceptance.  We can’t wait for everything that’s about to happen. 

We aren’t sure what projects will work or what won’t but we want to create projects that truly give back to the community and make it a better place.  We have thought about memberships and have even tried a few but we’re not sure what we really want to accomplish by these things.  We could create a whole new Unicorn army membership but I think going forward we just want to show that we can make a difference for the community.  It’s amazing we have stickers and resources but we want to create so much more. 

From Facebook to going to pride to marching in rallies.  We have always had a grassroots mission and organization style but going forward we want to try to be better and more organized when it comes to giving back.    We want to have a local feel and do things locally but have a global mission to change the world.  We want to take the smallest amount and create the largest good.  The community seems to have forgotten what it means to be a community and seems to not want to work together as much as make names for itself.  Hopefully we can add to the good of working together.    We have so much more to do, it’s so amazing and exciting. 

Our Billboard Campaign

Our billboards have been seen by hundreds of thousands of people all across the United States.  Every year we put up digital billboards and we allow anyone to download our graphics and add them to their local billboards in their communities. 

Our goal is to create a positive message and also to give smaller start up and even larger established LGBT positive organizations visibility.    A digital billboard is lower cost than traditional billboards and also allows us to pay for the billboard and have the graphics displayed the same day.  With your help we continue making a positive impact around the world. 

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Some of our designs

Have A Gay Day Opens Food Pantry

Have A Gay Day is giving back to the local community by partnering with the Food Bank and is a member of Feeding America. 

Have A Gay Day serves the zip code 45439 and is currently open the 3rd Tuesday of the month from 10:00am – 2:00pm and is open to the public.

Our program is often referred to as project K.I.N.D. “Kindness Inspired Nothing Desired” and is made possible by our community and the businesses that have made it their mission to support our outreach in the community.  

 

Pet Pantry

Have A Gay Day is one of the only pantries in the area to offer a pet food pantry.  The pet food is on a first come first served basis and is also donated through our Amazon wishlist.  We currently offer pouches, cans, and individually wrapped servings of pet food. 

The pet food pantry is open to the general public and is available any time our community center is open.  You do not have to live in the 45439 zip code to benefit from this and you do not have to have financial income obligations for this either. 

We have fresh veggies and fruit and herbs when available from our Community Garden.  The garden is open to the public and is always open and welcome for you to visit.  

Please be respectful of taking what you know you will use and also please be aware of others that frequent the garden also.  This is an amazing thing to have and we welcome you to pick a few things to take home or volunteer with us to make our garden grow. 

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Food Pantry

A Garden that Gives Back

Our Community Garden is open from the spring to the fall and features a wide selection of fresh herbs, vegetables, and fruit.  The garden is open from dawn till dusk and we allow people to volunteer to help maintain the space and also invite the public to come in to take as they wish.  We do monitor the garden for liability purposes and to make sure that everyone is mindful of the space.  

Fresh items are normally picked and handed out during the food pantry also.  Our garden is a labor of love and we appreciate all the volunteers and people that have supported this space.  

Transgender Day of Remembrance 2018 Have A Gay Day

Transgender Day of Remembrance: Through Sorrow, Strength

Transgender Day of Remembrance 2018

Every year, we set aside the 20th of November to mourn our stolen transgender family members, lift each other up in solidarity, and attempt to force the world to see – if only for one day – how cruel and absurd it is to sit back and allow hateful cowards to murder with impunity.

From one November to the next, we attempt to compile the names that we must never forget. We attempt to spread their stories. We attempt to know them so we can carry their banner in their absence. Despite our best efforts, though, many organizations believe the extent of the violence to date is unknown.

Validating the victims

To truly wake the world up, the staggering number of victims must be compiled and named. It sounds analytical and impersonal, but the horror needs numbers; the numbers need names; the names need faces. These are real people who deserve to be acknowledged.

There’s one huge problem, though – every list has different numbers. Wikipedia’s 2018 List of Unlawfully Killed Transgender People lists only 37 murders in 2018. The Human Rights Campaign lists only 22 murders this year, down from 29 in 2017. Wikipedia’s list includes all countries, while HRC’s list only focuses on crimes in the United States. These numbers would be laughable if they weren’t so harmful.

The Trans Murder Monitoring (TMM) project, a sub-project of the Transrespect Versus Transphobia (TvT) project, lists 369 reported murders of trans and gender-diverse people across the world from October 1st, 2017 through September 30th, 2018. The organization openly admits that this number is only their best effort based on what reports can be found.

Lack of care and resources

We live in a world in which law enforcement, news media outlets, politicians, and even families misgender murder victims; it can be out of malice, shame, ignorance…but let’s be honest, the reasons don’t matter. It’s unforgivable to erase the identity of a victim who was murdered because of their identity. It’s nonsense. In these cases, the victim is almost never able to be recognized as a victim of a hate crime; they are robbed of their right to be posthumously lifted up and validated, and we are robbed of our right to mourn them.

We are all unique individuals with complex stories, so even when crimes are reported with the victim’s correct identity, the organizations tracking the growing number of victims don’t have the resources to investigate each individual case. This makes it hard to determine whether the murder was, in fact, related to the victim’s gender rather than drugs, crimes of passion, robberies gone wrong, etc. The official investigations often make the waters even murkier. Take, for example, the recent murder of Shantee Tucker.

Say her name: Shantee Tucker

When Shantee Tucker was shot eight times in the back by an unknown person in a black truck on September 5th, 2018, Homicide Capt. John Ryan sparked outrage throughout Philadelphia by stating, “She wasn’t targeted because of her gender affiliation or lifestyle.” The statement is especially upsetting in light of the fact that the police have never had any suspects or leads. Shantee’s unsolved case was highlighted in this year’s Philly Trans March, and activists point out that she is only one of five (reported) transgender women of color who have been murdered in Philadelphia since 2013. In addition to Shantee’s tragedy, the March addressed multiple issues, including the fact that the majority of gender-related murder victims are transgender women of color.

Mourning the lost; supporting the future

We live in a dichotomous time. Society finally has to face the idea of “transgender” as something that actually exists – or at least something they can’t ignore anymore; transgender celebrities are out and proud; children are starting to be allowed to take ownership of their own identities – 9-year-old Avery Jackson, a trans girl who has taken the world by storm and inspired the Transgender House in Topeka, Kansas, was featured on the cover of National Geographic.

On the other side of the coin, hard-won transgender rights were yanked away before many people even got to exercise them. In addition to those rights, activists and advocates openly worry about the revocation of marriage rights. Countless murders of trans individuals go unsolved and forgotten; countless trans youth and young adults succumb to suicide. It might feel like we have no control over our future.

What can we do?

We can stay loud, determined, and resolute. If we feel helpless and hopeless looking toward the future, we can choose to build each other up in the present. We can keep our hearts open to anyone who needs help – and we can show them where to get professional help if necessary through resources like the Transgender Law Center.

Maybe not all 369 murders were hate crimes. It doesn’t matter; in 365 days, the world lost 369 people who dared to live their authentic lives. They are our family, and we are diminished by their absence. We owe it to them, ourselves, and the future to give new life to their silenced voices.

Say their names.

 

Support Equality With #GIVINGTUESDAY

Have A Gay Day 2018 #givingtuesday

Support Equality With #GIVINGTUESDAY

Thanksgiving: Phew. Black Friday: Yikes. Small Business Saturday: A little better. Cyber Monday: Better with Amazon Smile. Does your inner light feel a bit dim? That’s why #GIVINGTUESDAY exists. Have A Gay Day supports equality and love, and #GIVINGTUESDAY is a fun way to be part of that mission.

What is #GIVINGTUESDAY?

Giving Tuesday (usually styled #GIVINGTUESDAY) is our chance to take a deep breath, support the causes we believe in, get on Santa’s “nice list,” and avoid throwing your change into those red buckets in a last-minute fit of charitable guilt. But if you’re on this website, you’ve probably already made twelve Facebook posts denouncing that cause. 

It’s been one heck of a year. You might want to throw your hands to the sky and yell, “I want a do-over!” Well, unfortunately, life doesn’t give us do-overs. It does give us the chance to keep that do-over feeling from spilling into the next year, though. Giving Tuesday isn’t only a day to give to your favorite charity; it’s a fun way to get others involved as well.

How does #GIVINGTUESDAY work?

Giving Tuesday lets you engage with your community and everyone around the world. Donate to your favorite nonprofit, then share your support on social with the hashtag #GIVINGTUESDAY. Challenge your friends to give, too! There are also awesome incentives, like the #mygivingstory contest, in which you could win anything from a t-shirt to a $10,000 grant to the nonprofit of your choice. (*hint hint, wink wink*) You can use the #unselfie print-out to show why you give.

Ok, but where's my money going?

That’s a fair question. Lots of organizations seem to have shady practices, and you’re a smart, caring person who wants to make sure you’re not lining some lobbyist’s pockets. Luckily, you’ve made an excellent choice. Have A Gay Day is run 100% by volunteers from all over the country. We all have “real” jobs because we want you trust us to use your entire gift toward improving the world. By remaining volunteer-only, your donation supports our community center, food pantrycommunity garden, and all the exciting projects we’re planning for the future.

What if I prefer to give privately?

If you can find a nonprofit that doesn’t want your support unless you publicize it to the world, it’s probably a cult. Your support keeps Have A Gay Day alive, and we’ll all have to rethink our lives if we’re ever ungrateful.

How do I give to Have A Gay Day?

However you want! You can give to our Facebook campaign, donate directly on the site, or choose any way listed on the donation page.

If you can’t give, encourage others. Write us an email letting us know you support our mission in your heart. Whatever you do this #GIVINGTUESDAY, make sure you improve somebody’s world, even a tiny bit.


The mission of Have A Gay Day is to create a safe environment for the purpose of Equality, Education, and support for the LGBT Community and their Allies.

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